My best gal pal Jenny returned from her world tour last weekend. She had spent the last year working in New York and then learning Spanish in Guatemala. It had been an amazing experience for her....from her stressful New York power job, trading sex for money in New Jersey to snorting cocaine and finding love in Guatemala…Jenny had lived more in 12 months than in the last 12 years. Jenny and I were the type of friends that no matter how long we had been out of touch, we could always jump back where we left off. She knows me better than I know myself. We confide in each other, tell each other our insecurities ....our unhealthy habits and share the same luck with men. In many ways, she is my soulmate.

• Snapchat Personals

Our catch up only lasted a few hours but got me thinking about my friendships. In many ways, my friendships have replaced my traditional romantic relationships. To a certain extent my friends have actually become my soulmates…and these friendships are probably much intimate and healthier than any type of relationships that I have ever had with gay men. So could I live without a real romantic relationship and be content with various soulmate friends? Friends come and go…I can only remember a few close friends that I keep in touch from my high school days. People move, change, die…but there are still a few close souls I keep close to from my Uni days. I have been to their weddings, they have come and visited me, we have lost touch but then caught up again. I guess that with true friends you cannot really loose touch because you can catch up again quickly.

• Loveawake Insta Soulmates

Friends have become my urban family. Jenny and I have made a pact that if we are both single when we turn 40, we will get married and have children. I have already promised to be there at the birth of her children. We both have this weird believe that we will be single in the future. Is it so crazy to end up with someone you love as a friend but not as a lover? Many long term relationships do end up as sex-less friendships? So why not just start off that way?

• Dutch Kinky Dating

I was feeling cheeky and lonely. So I told him. Jokingly….that I had a crush on him….just like I have a crush on Deli man. David got all red and blushed. It is very hard to read him and to know what he is thinking or feeling. I’m an emotional oriented person…he’s more analytical and stoic. David was in the Israeli army after all! Things the day after confessing my crush were not awkward or different. Our friendship remains intact...if anything it may have brought us closer. Will anything happen? Probably not…but the truth is out there…It is kind of like when you come out to someone…they may ignore it or not react but at least you said it. Even of nothing happens, I said what I needed to say. Life is too short and sometimes you cannot leave things unsaid. He knows he is special to me. And so do I. But we will remain in our little boxes.

• Benelux Dominant Personals

Normally, when I meet a new man…he gets put into one of two boxes: friend or lover/shag/other. I could never like or shag my friends. That would be a bit like sleeping with my brother! Yuk. Similarly if I date someone and we break up, the guy very rarely remain as a friend. I believe that if you break up with someone it is because you no longer want to see them. So why keep up the friendship? With good friends such as David it is tricky. On one hand, my time is limited here in Sydney and I want him to know how special he is to me. On the other hand, I do not want things to be awkward..I do not want to risk altering our friendship. I know that we cannot cross that friendship line (we are not love or sex2K compatible).

• Sugar Mates